You don't always have to talk about this or offer to pay. There are many reasons a woman may want a man to pay. Maybe you want him to make you feel special. You don't have to offer. If he complains, you can pay and know you are not a match. Chivalry and romance are not dead. It can be a turn on for some women if a man pays. You are not obligated to anything if he pays. Feminism has made these issues more complicated, but you have a choice. Be true to yourself, not what you think is politically correct.