Why Finding the Right Man Is Like House Hunting | Be Your Own Brand of Sexy

What’s your strategy when you’re looking for a relationship? Yes, that’s right — strategy. Because finding love will be incredibly difficult if you just go with the “I’m attracted to this guy, therefore let’s start dating” principle.

You need to have a very specific approach to the process of finding a man. If you just go on attraction, meaning the initial chemistry you have with a guy, that can make it very easy to throw caution to the wind. That can eventually lead to heartbreak because guess what: the chemistry fades really quickly if there is nothing more than that between you two.

Being happy in the long run involves a little more carefulness and scrutiny.

How Should You Approach the Process?

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship that didn’t live up to your needs? Looking back now, you can probably name a few red flags that were present early on, but you completely dismissed. The man will often leave a few clues lying around that you need to pick up on and pay attention to. Red flags spiral into relationship problems really fast.

Ask yourself this: why didn’t you take these red flags more seriously? If you were looking for a home and found one that seemed great, but needed a lot of work, you’d think…