What is the Best Way to Meet a Man? Here are 5 Great Ones

Dr. Susan Edelman
5 min readApr 1

“How can I meet a nice man?”

This is one of the most frequently asked questions I get when speaking to women on the radio, on TV, in public — everywhere.

Finding a Nice Man Can Be Hard

Unfortunately, countless women don’t realize that they aren’t very likely to meet someone by hanging out with their friends and family or sitting in front of the TV at home. It takes a lot more effort.

I hear, “It shouldn’t be that hard,” from many women about this situation. Maybe that’s true. But remember that finding a good relationship is worth the work involved. It’s the dating process that helps you get to know someone. You can’t start that process until you meet men.

Don’t expect to go from meeting a nice man to an instant relationship like in the movies. Real life is much more complicated. Dating is critical.

Depending on how things go, it can set the stage for your future relationship or end it quickly. It is how you figure out whether he’s a nice man who wants what you want or he isn’t. And no, you can’t usually tell these things in a date or two. So, learn to listen to your instincts and intuition so that you can better tell the nice men from the ones who could break your heart.

5 Solid Ways to Meet Mr. Right

Here are some suggestions for how to meet a nice man. All of these won’t work for everyone — make sure to choose the ways that are right for your situation.

1. Blind dates.

Will your friends fix you up? Let your friends know that you’re looking to meet any nice, eligible men that they see as a good match. Friends are good sources for men because they are already semi-vetted — if he is the friend of your friend, he is probably a decent guy.

2. Socialize through common interests.

Do you go to church, play a sport, or have hobbies where you can meet someone? Whether it’s the gym, classes, volunteering, or something else, wherever you spend your free time can be a great place to meet a man who shares some of your interests. Better still, if you don’t meet anyone, at least you spent your time doing something you like.

Dr. Susan Edelman

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