Unrealistic Relationship Expectations: Love’s Blind Spots — Be Your Own Brand of Sexy

Dr. Susan Edelman
6 min readJul 27, 2024

Karen, a Karen, a successful realtor, was excited about her date with Mark, whom she’d met through a dating app. His profile had looked promising — tall, silver-haired, and a local business owner.

As she waited at the restaurant bar, Karen felt a mix of anticipation and nervousness. However, when Mark walked in, her heart sank a little. He was shorter than she expected, his hair more gray than silver, and his suit slightly ill-fitting.

Throughout dinner, Karen found herself distracted by these superficial details. She barely noticed Mark’s warm smile or his interesting stories about his work in the community.

When Mark mentioned he’d grown up in a small town and was the first in his family to go to college, Karen felt a twinge of disappointment. She’d always pictured herself with someone from a similar upper-middle-class background.

Later, as they discussed current events, Mark respectfully disagreed with some of Karen’s views. Instead of finding this intriguing, Karen felt annoyed. She’d hoped to meet someone who shared her opinions.

By the end of the night, despite Mark’s genuine interest and kind demeanor, Karen had already decided there wouldn’t be a second date. She couldn’t shake the feeling

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Dr. Susan Edelman

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