Strategies for Getting Top Treatment from Successful Men — Be Your Own Brand of Sexy

She wrapped up her call, a major deal successfully negotiated. In the corporate world, she was known for being sharp, strategic, and unwavering. But as she glanced at her phone and saw his message changing their plans again, that familiar knot formed in her stomach.

“Meeting ran late. Rain check for tonight? Drinks tomorrow instead?”

This was the third time in two weeks he’d shifted plans last-minute. Each time, she found herself saying yes, not wanting to seem difficult. The same woman who wouldn’t let a client adjust a meeting without proper notice was letting a man she was dating repeatedly upend her schedule without consequence.

The Power Dynamic

In today’s dating world, successful men who combine high achievement, wealth, and intelligence are highly sought after. These are the men who’ve reached the top of their fields as doctors, lawyers, executives, business owners, and other professionals. Their career success and financial position make them especially appealing to many women. They understand their worth and have options — both professionally and personally.

Your own professional success, while impressive, doesn’t automatically prepare you for these dynamics. Dating at this level brings unique challenges that go beyond managing busy schedules. Their position and success naturally affect how others respond to them. People tend to be more understanding of their demands, more accepting of their schedule changes, more likely to feel fortunate for their time and attention. When a man like this presents a reason for changing plans, the same woman who would question this behavior from anyone else might find herself accepting it without hesitation.

And some of these men have learned to use this to their advantage — whether consciously or not. They engage in a sophisticated dance of influence, one they’ve perfected over countless interactions. They understand exactly how their success and status affect others’ responses, and they know how to leverage that dynamic to get what they want. Strategies for getting top treatment require first understanding their world.

The Challenge