Some of the most powerful women in the world worry about being single, regardless of how capable and successful they are. Add some nosy comments like, “do you have a boyfriend?” or “why aren’t you married?” and these wildly intelligent and competent women can feel panicked.
This underlying current of pressure makes it more difficult to bounce back when a budding relationship ends, or when a potential partner disappears without a word. Add a little worry about growing older and how that may hurt your chances, and your anxiety can grow.
With concerns mounting over finding a partner, rejection becomes doubly confusing and painful-not that it was a walk in the park to begin with. At a certain point, things can start to feel deeply personal with thoughts like, “why doesn’t he like me?” and “I’m worried I’ll be single forever.”
If you’re wrestling with some of these sensations, here’s a bit of insight to level the playing field: problems with unrequited love are nothing new. For as long as humans have been interacting, men and women have struggled to cope with feelings of rejection, self-doubt, sadness, and confusion when they were forced to say goodbye to a partner that they hoped could be “the one.” This compounds with each failed relationship as the stress of being single continues to mount.
As counterintuitive as it seems, the more you worry about finding love, the less likely it is to happen. Rather than tensing up with anxiety, here are 5 reasons to decompress from the stress of being single:
1- Most people find a life partner.
Years ago, more than 90% of people got married; marriage rates have dropped in recent years, but it doesn’t mean that fewer people are finding love. More couples are delaying marriage until later in life, and some are foregoing the institution entirely in favor of simply living together as partners. Older adults who have divorced or become widowed often remarry. 67% of previously married people aged 55–64 remarried and 50% of those over 65 did. The fact remains that the data is in your favor-if we’re looking at it strictly from the perspective of numbers, chances are you will find someone to spend the rest of your life with.