Sex With Your Ex: Why You Need To Think Twice

Breakups happen for a variety of reasons, but that often doesn’t mean that passionate flame you once carried for your ex is gone. You might be tempted to see where those old passions could lead, especially if the sex had been good even if the relationship hadn’t. Last week we discussed whether or not you should respond to your ex’s texts or phone calls. But perhaps you’ve already responded, and now you’re considering taking things back to the bedroom. Before you do, you should take a moment to reflect on whether or not it’s a good idea.

Are you really missing him or are you just lonely? Do you hope that this time it’ll just be casual and no big deal? Although many women think, “I’m a modern woman and should be able to have casual sex without getting attached,” we’re built for attachment. Casual sex might not work for you. Being your own Brand of Sexy means doing what best for youemotionally, not your ex. It’s about taking control of your love life, demanding respect from men, and empowering yourself with the confidence to walk away from those who won’t respect your voice. It also means learning how to take things slow in a relationship, and that includes sex.

Maybe you’ve told yourself that you’ll take things slow with new relationships, but this is an ex. You already know each other, so why go slow? Why not just jump into bed? For the most…