How to Tell if Your Love Life Has Instantly Changed | Be Your Own Brand of Sexy

Dr. Susan Edelman
4 min readSep 28, 2019

Do you believe in love at first sight? One survey discovered that over 50% of people say they have had the experience of falling in love at first sight and 90% of the time it led to a relationship. 55% of those married, 20% were in a long term relationship, 16% in a short term relationship and 8% led to none. Men were more likely to experience this phenomenon than women.

You may be in the 50% who’ve never had this kind of experience. Or maybe you fell in love at first sight, but it didn’t lead to anything serious or long-lasting, and you’re still single. If you’ve never had this experience, you might be feeling a little envious that someone could just be so “sure” they’d found the one. It must be nice to not have to guess and waiver back-and-forth, unsure if your dating partner is right for you. Decisiveness can be convenient.

You may hope that your intuition will signal to you that you’ve met the right person, and show you definitive signs that your life is changing. But it might not. It might take you a while to recognize Mr. Right, even if he’s right in front of you. Take heart, though. This shouldn’t be a problem for you. As long as you’re open to dating a nice man and don’t weed him out too quickly for superficial reasons, it’s not an issue if “love at first sight” doesn’t happen to you. After all, it can take some time to get to know someone new and fall in love with them.

Why are the signs of a changing love life not so obvious to some people?

One reason why is that in general, men are different than women in how they perceive attractiveness. Men are more visual, so looks are a significant factor for them. Women generally aren’t as influenced by looks alone. We are interested in other factors besides just appearance. After all, a man might look very attractive, but not make a very good partner. What they say is true: looks can be deceiving.

This study found that women were significantly less likely to find a man attractive if she knew he was a morally “bad” person. In this study, that meant he belonged to a terrorist group. In another study, he was a drug dealer. How would you like to get involved with a man, only to find out he had…

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Dr. Susan Edelman

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