How to Stop Attracting the Wrong Man Now in 5 Steps

Dr. Susan Edelman
4 min readJan 28, 2023

Women feel that looking for a good guy who is seriously interested in them is like looking for a needle in a haystack. They have already tried online dating, blind dates, and more. The men they meet end up being narcissists and players, guys looking for sugar mommas or just no-strings-attached sex and fun. The few times they thought they might have met a good guy, he seemed to lose interest or take them for granted after a short period of time.

What went wrong in these situations?

Believe it or not, there are plenty of good guys around. It might be hard for you to see what you might be doing to contribute to these disappointing experiences with your dates, but you’ve made very important progress when you can. Changing your approach to dating can make a tremendous difference in the quality of men that you meet and ultimately date.

So, what can you do to improve the chances of meeting quality men in your life? Follow these 5 steps:

1. Be aware of you

Many women don’t take the time to know themselves well. Maybe they are trying so hard to please the man or others in their lives or they forget to look at themselves. When you want a relationship, it’s important to know yourself well enough to figure out what you need in a relationship.What are your values and priorities in life? What matters to you when it comes to family, career, finances, health, and relationships? What are your beliefs about being in a relationship? Do you believe you deserve to get your needs met or do you feel (or act like) you should always put other people’s needs ahead of your own? You may have to question some of your long-standing beliefs in order to get the relationship you want. Take the time to understand yourself so you can make better decisions about potential partners.

2. Identify your needs.

Everyone has needs in a relationship, and you must know yours in order to help you determine if a potential partner is really a good match for you. When you know what works for you, you can be selective in your choices and more careful about screening men before sharing a lot about yourself and needlessly investing your time and emotional energy. How committed do you want your partner to be? How much affection do you…



Dr. Susan Edelman

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