How to Keep From Messing Up Your Budding Romance | Be Your Own Brand of Sexy

Dr. Susan Edelman
4 min readAug 3, 2019

If you’re looking for a serious, committed relationship, it’s all about figuring out if he’s going to be the right partner for you. Will he commit to you? Are you two compatible? And, it’s also critical to learn how to keep from messing up your budding romance. There’s nothing worse than finding a guy who seems like “the one,” only to make a critical mistake that kills the relationship and turns the romance sour.

Unfortunately, women make several common mistakes when it comes to protecting the romance. So, how can you nurture a blossoming relationship that has promise? You need to know how to promote his feelings of togetherness rather than sabotage them. Below are 7 top tips for how to not mess up your budding romance and protect the relationship as it grows into something special.

Sure, it’s easy to enjoy the company of a person you’re wildly attracted to. But do you demonstrate that you also enjoy the company of someone who is a nice person and seems like they have long-term potential, even if you aren’t crazy-attracted to them yet?

If you don’t enjoy the dating process or can’t appreciate nice men, you might be missing the good ones out there who are looking for commitment and would make loving, long-term partners. If you don’t enjoy his company in the early parts of the dating phase, he might not ask you out again. If you’re in a lousy mood, cut the evening short or reschedule the date, so you have the opportunity to give him another chance when you’re feeling more positive and appreciative about the dating experience.

A good man wants to make you happy and will do nice things for you. A man who isn’t that into you isn’t going to put in as much effort. Learn to tell the difference and expect to be treated well. Remember to express your gratitude when a date does something nice for you that demonstrates he was putting your needs or preferences first.

When you appreciate him in this way, you’re encouraging him to keep being kind to you. Why would anyone put in the effort to be caring and accommodating if their efforts are never acknowledged? The same principle applies to dating.

People will tell you that you can’t find love without confidence, but that’s not true…

Dr. Susan Edelman

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