How to Be OK with Aging: 5 Things That Get Better with Age

Dr. Susan Edelman
5 min readApr 29

Aging is a topic that many of us don’t want to confront, because many people today dread the aging process. They don’t realize the advantages involved.

Our culture is obsessed with youth and beauty. Instead of being happy to just look their best, women get injections at the first sign of wrinkles and they do it at increasingly younger ages. Americans spent greater than $16.5 billion in cosmetic plastic surgery and fillers in 2018. The results of say that the amount of money women spend on their appearance is enough to pay college tuition or buy a home. are starting to follow this expensive trend. We avoid looking older like the plague, because we don’t know how to be OK with aging.

It’s not your fault if you’re concerned about your appearance. In our culture, we are bombarded by increasingly unrealistic and unattainable beauty ideals. With this much cultural pressure, you would have to feel very secure about yourself not to feel some level of insecurity. We are constantly judged by the way we look. Moreover, it can feel like we are in competition with other women, especially when we experience fat-shaming or notice it happening to celebrities who put on a few pounds. Men also experience these types of discrimination.

Age discrimination is just as rampant. Unfortunately, media portrayals of older people make them appear dependent, helpless, unproductive, or demanding. Most seniors are actually self-sufficient consumers with time, money, and abilities to give to society.

How can you possibly think of aging as anything but a tremendous loss and the enemy you must fight at all costs with so much pressure to be young and beautiful? Believe it or not, there are many benefits of being older that you also can feel grateful for. And, best of all, changing your mindset regarding aging can help you to reduce stress about your future.

Becca Levy, PhD, professor of epidemiology at Yale School of Public Health and of psychology at Yale University, says, “those who are exposed to or develop more positive age beliefs tend to show benefits in physical, cognitive, and mental health.”

Here are just 5 of the positive things about aging:

Dr. Susan Edelman

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