How to Be More Attractive to Men when Dating — Instantly

Dr. Susan Edelman
5 min readDec 24, 2022

Sometimes, when you meet a guy you really like, he doesn’t like you back. If you’ve been dating for a while, you know very well how difficult it is to find someone attractive you can picture yourself with long-term, so it’s that much more disappointing when the guy you like is not attracted to you.

Most women often believe that physical attractiveness is the key to a man’s heart and attention. Why wouldn’t they? In a culture as obsessed with youth and beauty as ours, how you look seems all important. As a result, these women put in a lot of work on their appearance, focusing on their clothes, makeup, and spending thousands on beauty treatments. All of this in the hopes of solving the question of how to look more attractive in dating. At the same time, they are ignoring all the other essential factors that can make a woman appear more attractive to a man.

Taking care of your look and body is perfectly fine, but don’t underestimate the many other ways you can make yourself more appealing to potential partners. What makes you attractive to men goes way beyond what is skin-deep.

Here are the top 5 tips that will help you to instantly be more attractive to men:

Tip #1: Mindset

When you’re looking for the right man, you can easily start taking things very seriously. A bit too seriously at times. This is perfectly normal, as you know your dating goals and have created space in your life to be laser-focused on them. But, one of the best ways to connect with a new man in your life is to lighten things up and just have fun. It can either look like being more playful or you might even tease him a little bit when appropriate. When he’s having a good time, you are a more attractive woman in his eyes.

You want a man who enjoys being with you and wants to do that as much as possible. But if his date is always thinking “business,” that might not be the most enjoyable date in his mind.

If you are sick of dating right now, then you’re probably feeling a little burned out and you may need a break. Dating shouldn’t feel like a chore. Try to think of a date as a meeting with someone new, who can teach you something about your dating journey, whether or not he is Mr. Right.

Dr. Susan Edelman

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