How to Be a Confident Woman in a Relationship Today

Confidence is not necessary for you to find and keep a good relationship.

Surprised? I know, this is the opposite of what you’ve constantly heard.

If you believe the unfortunate myth that you must fully love yourself before you can find a partner, it’s not your fault. We are constantly bombarded with messages about how critical it is to be beautiful, materialistic, and egocentric. They say being confident in relationships is essential. Our complicated culture sends messages to perfectly normal, sweet, and healthy people who would make great romantic partners telling them they are simply not good enough for love.

They tell us that you need to learn to love yourself before you can love others. Think about this carefully. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t possibly love anyone else. Do you really believe this is true? It absolutely is not!

Although this might be intended to be a helpful message, the idea of loving yourself fully before you can love others has some toxic repercussions. Think it might make you feel insecure when it comes to loving others? Yes. The unfortunate message is: you’re not doing it right.

That said, although unwavering self-confidence is not necessary in your quest for a relationship, a little bit of it can make the process much…