How Making Yourself a Top Priority Helps You with Dating — Be Your Own Brand of Sexy

Elena’s built her life around achievement. Her calendar is a testament to efficiency — client meetings flow into conference calls, board presentations into strategy sessions. Work dominates her world.

Last night’s date started promisingly enough. Mark seemed intelligent, attractive, engaged. But when he asked, “What do you do for fun?” Elena launched into talking about the last deal she closed, the complex problems she solved, the team she’s building. She watched his eyes glaze over slightly and shifted to asking about him — her usual strategy for keeping any conversation on track.

Now, at home, that question won’t leave her mind. What DO I do for fun outside of work? She can handle any business challenge with confidence, but this simple question has her stumped. The realization hits hard: she’s forgotten how to just enjoy life, how to do anything without a purpose or goal. Dating feels like another task to master. Has her focus on work hurt her love life?

She thinks about her weekends — catching up on email, preparing for Monday’s meetings, maybe a quick workout scheduled with military precision. Even her “downtime” is optimized for productivity. She’s spent decades viewing every hour as an opportunity for achievement. It would be easy to write Mark…