Feel Like Giving up on Dating and Love? Here’s How to Cope

Dr. Susan Edelman
5 min readOct 14, 2023

Dating, love, and relationships can feel like a rollercoaster ride with both thrilling highs and heart-wrenching lows. If you feel too battered and bruised from the potholes and rocks on your path, it can be easy to forget about any potential euphoria. That can make you feel like giving up on the whole process.

Rejection, conflict, and anger can make you feel black-and-blue emotionally, but they’re hard to avoid. Whether the conflict comes from making mistakes or having financial or health challenges, things can get tense. After all, two people will never agree about everything, and if your partner doesn’t understand you it can feel like a rejection. How can you avoid rejection with dating? It’s simply part of the selection process. So, if you feel like giving up on relationships, it’s a sign that you may need to strengthen your mind and find better ways to cope with these difficult situations.

So, I get it if sometimes you feel like you want to give up on love. Giving up seems easier, but it does not strengthen you. In the long run, you’re always better off trying to hang in there, put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward. When you don’t give up on your dreams, you become stronger through adversity. And that can help you realize that you can handle any tough times that may come.

How can you gain the strength that will help you handle future challenges in love or other areas of your life?

Here’s hope to cope and strengthen your mind when you feel like giving up:

1- Be kind to yourself.

Many of us are our worst critics, which just makes matters worse when you are already having a hard time. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. So, it’s better to accept them and learn lessons from them rather than to obsess over every little error and berate yourself. Your past relationships, whether they were successes or failures, can guide you in making better choices in the future.

A healthy relationship begins with you. When you can accept yourself, you feel more deserving of love. Loving and valuing yourself sends a powerful message to potential partners.

2- Get the support you need.



Dr. Susan Edelman

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