Dr. Susan Edelman
3 min readMay 22, 2021


Ever Been Rejected by a Man? Why It Happened and How to Learn from It

3 Top Reasons Men Reject You and What You Can Do About Them

Reasons Why It Might Be a Good Thing He Rejected You

Most of us are familiar with the sinking feeling of getting rejected. It’s a feeling no one likes.

Unfortunately, dating means that you will get rejected quite often. But, if you want to find the right person, then you need to understand that it does not usually happen the moment when you stick your toe in the dating pool and start dating again. Finding the right match can take a while and it helps a great deal if you can manage any feelings of rejection rather than take it personally, get too discouraged, or give up.

Trying to be a little more objective about your date can help to shield you from the blow of rejection. Unfortunately, women can go to a very self-critical place when they feel rejected, assuming they are too fat, old, or unattractive to interest a man. Most of the time, though, if you are dating men around the same age and level of physical attractiveness as you, the reasons he is not into you may have nothing to do with your looks or age. We’ve just become accustomed to blaming ourselves because our culture tells us that youth and beauty are the most important qualities we have to attract a good man. It simply is not true.

This is what is really going on when a man seems lukewarm about you:

Top Reasons Men Reject You #1: He Is Not Ready for Love or Commitment.

When he is not looking for a true partner in life, he wants to keep things casual. He might be interested in a sexual relationship, but nothing serious. He may tell you that he wants a committed relationship, but it feels more like it is convenient for him rather than he is truly invested in your relationship.

If he is not ready, the best thing you can do is to recognize that, accept it, and move on. He is not rejecting you, so you don’t need to make it personal. He would reject anyone looking for a committed, deep relationship,

Top Reasons Men Reject You #2: You Are Not a Match

No matter how charming or attractive you find each other, sometimes a couple is simply not a good fit. If you want to have a…



Dr. Susan Edelman

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