Am I Ready for a Relationship or Just Lonely? How to Tell
She met Alex, who was friendly and fun to be around, but didn’t open up on deeper emotional levels. After a few weeks of casual dates, they slid into a relationship. Jessica liked having someone to do things with — movies, shows, weekend escapes from the city. But their conversations stayed at the surface level. Whenever she brought up more personal topics, Alex changed the subject or made a joke. The relationship was unsatisfying. Jessica often became sullen thinking about the lack of real intimacy. She considered asking Alex for more from the relationship. A part of her was tired of the constant emotional detachment between them. But whenever she considered being that vulnerable, her anxiety spiked. Jessica was deathly afraid of asking for more only to be rejected if Alex refused to deepen their intimacy. So, she stayed silent, convincing herself that keeping things surface level was better than losing him. Jessica clung to the safety of this arm’s length arrangement, even though she was disappointed. Gradually, Alex became more distant. He took longer to return Jessica’s texts, bailed on date nights, and stopped trying to make plans. When they did see each other, Alex seemed distracted and disengaged. The playful banter they once shared had faded away. Jessica confronted Alex about the change in his behavior. He insisted everything was fine but continued to pull away…