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Picture this: you’ve just met someone and your chemistry is through the roof. He’s not the most reliable man and you know deep in your heart that he’s not a good match long-term.

But, what harm can a brief relationship do? You’re just having a bit of fun, right?

Many women don’t consider the toll a short term relationship can take on them. They just think he’s cute or think they have a lot in common. Or maybe they’re having a dating dry spell and think someone to date is better than no one at all. …


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Answer this:

How many men have you met who aren’t looking for commitment or who can’t seem to commit even when they say it’s what they want?

It’s probably quite a few.

After a while, it can get downright discouraging. You might have even started to believe that ALL men are commitment-phobic, but that simply isn’t true. Even though many men don’t want commitment or are players, there are plenty of good men out there looking for committed, long-term relationships. You just have to be able to figure out if he’s one of those keepers and how to get him to commit to you. …


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The Best Solution to a Struggling Love Life

I’ll be honest with you.

There’s a lot that goes into building a happy love life, but making good decisions about what to do on your dating and relationship path is perhaps one of the most important skills you need.

If you are here to learn more about building a happy love life, then you should rejoice: I have some great tips for you.

But first..

Unfortunately, there can be a lot of confusion about making decisions regarding dating and relationships. So, let’s make a few things clear

A Little Psychology to Help Your…


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Being your own Brand of Sexy is the term I use for being your best self in dating and relationships.

What do I mean by that?

It’s about being the real you, genuine, authentic. It’s all about listening to your intuition and accepting who you are. When you own yourself, you become self-assured. Our culture may tell you that you’re not attractive, confident, or successful enough, but being your own Brand of Sexy is a place of acceptance no matter what our toxic cultural trends say.

In fact, I have science to back me up. One study that looked at how people’s ability to stay true to themselves affected their relationships found that those who were real and genuine had more positive dating relationships. The scientists concluded that when we are true to ourselves, it becomes easier to build intimacy and make our relationships more fulfilling. …


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I think it’s safe to say that there isn’t a person among us who doesn’t have insecurities. Some may be better at dealing with them or hiding them, but we’re all insecure to some extent.

Everyone has flaws and imperfections, and that’s perfectly normal. But, it’s the human condition to be painfully aware of them.

Our insecurities are part of who we are and don’t just vanish once we’re in a relationship. In fact, they may even become more obvious to you or your partner. If you’re afraid you might get rejected because of the things you’re insecure about, then getting close to someone can make you feel very vulnerable. …


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Are you afraid that you might be too forward with a man?

Let’s look at the big picture for a second.

As women, we’ve been at a disadvantage. Most of us were raised to put our needs second and prioritize others and how they feel. Men were generally raised to be assertive while we were brought up to be “good girls.”

When you think about these differences in how we’ve learned how to behave and socialize, determining if you are too forward and how it can affect the dating process can be rather hard.

How much of our reluctance is wondering if it’s OK to ask for what we want? Part of the question addresses permission to be assertive. The other part is what works for you when dating. …


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How to Avoid Dating Losers and Deadbeats

Women often find themselves in disappointing relationships with men and then get stuck in them, not finding the strength or motivation to put an end to it. Eventually, these relationships do end, but it’s rarely amicable.

Here’s a scenario you might know all too well. You met this man and it was all fun and games in those courtship and honeymoon months. Then he became part of your life, and you started living together, making big decisions and sharing responsibilities, but you seem to carry most of the load. Although he won’t pay for anything or can’t keep a job, you may become so attached that you keep hoping he’ll change his ways. …


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How to Avoid Dating Losers and Deadbeats

Women often find themselves in disappointing relationships with men and then get stuck in them, not finding the strength or motivation to put an end to it. Eventually, these relationships do end, but it’s rarely amicable.

Here’s a scenario you might know all too well. You met this man and it was all fun and games in those courtship and honeymoon months. Then he became part of your life, and you started living together, making big decisions and sharing responsibilities, but you seem to carry most of the load. Although he won’t pay for anything or can’t keep a job, you may become so attached that you keep hoping he’ll change his ways. …


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Everything was great at first. You and your man seemed so in love, spent loads of time together, and you were finally feeling like you had found the one. Then, something happened, and you notice he started to pull away. What gives?

There are several reasons why a man might pull back out of the blue. Even if his distance might have nothing to do with you or your relationship, it can still be a scary feeling to watch a gap form between the two of you and wonder how big it might grow. …


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Everything was great at first. You and your man seemed so in love, spent loads of time together, and you were finally feeling like you had found the one. Then, something happened, and you notice he started to pull away. What gives?

There are several reasons why a man might pull back out of the blue. Even if his distance might have nothing to do with you or your relationship, it can still be a scary feeling to watch a gap form between the two of you and wonder how big it might grow. …

Dr. Susan Edelman

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