7 Things A Woman Should Never Ask a Man on A First Date

Dr. Susan Edelman
5 min readDec 17, 2022

When you’re on a first date, you might be a little nervous. Will he like me? Does this have a future? Is he going to break my heart? It’s natural to be uncertain about where things stand. But there are some questions you should not ask when you first meet a man if you want a second date.

You don’t want to grill the guy with personal questions on your first date. Many men complain that their dates feel more like an interrogation than a pleasant meeting with an interesting woman. It can be tempting to ask a lot of personal questions when you’re nervous. You may tell yourself that you don’t want to waste time with a man who is not going to be right for you. But there is no need to make him feel uncomfortable. Why sabotage your chances of getting to know him? Take your time on date 1 so you can have future dates to find out the answers. Know that there are things not to ask on a first date.

First dates are critical. As the saying goes, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression.” Even if you have another meeting, it’s always going to be tainted by the first. You can’t easily “fast-track” a relationship. Typically, relationships evolve over time, so you want to gradually ease into personal questions. Otherwise, your date may feel like you are crossing a boundary. You don’t have the required level of intimacy to ask for personal information on a first date. It might feel to him like it’s simply none of your business. Asking awkward questions are at the top of the list of first date don’ts. As is said, “People may forget what you say, but they always remember how you make them feel.” When you put a man on the spot by asking something overly personal, you change his feelings from intrigued and curious about you to confused and uncomfortable.

On a first date, you are much better off asking him questions that will help you to make a good connection. There are so many other pleasant things to talk about on a first date. You are more likely to discover common interests when you ask basic questions about where he grew up and went to school, what he does for a living as well as his hobbies and interests. Why create any awkward moments if you can possibly avoid them?

Here are the 7 questions not to ask on a first date:

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Dr. Susan Edelman

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